Married Life in Islam

[WhItErOse]

"And among His signs is this, that He created for you mates from among yourselves, that you may dwell in tranquility with them, and He has put love and mercy between your hearts. Verily in that are signs for those who reflect." (Qur'an 30:21)
In the Qur'an, the marriage relationship is described as one with "tranquility," "love" and "mercy." Elsewhere in the Qur'an, husband and wife are described as "garments" for each other (2:187). Garments offer protection, comfort, modesty, and warmth. Above all, the Qur'an describes that the best garment is the "garment of God-consciousness" (7:26).

Muslims view marriage as the foundation of society and family life. In a practical aspect, Islamic marriage is thus structured through legally-enforceable rights and duties of both parties. In an atmosphere of love and respect, these rights and duties provide a framework for the balance of family life and the fulfillment of both partners.


General Rights
•To be treated with honor, kindness, and patience.
•To enjoy intimate relations with each other.
•To have children, by God's will.
•To keep one's legal and personal identity after marriage, retaining one's own family name, inheritance rights, property, mahr, etc.
General Duties
•To be faithful to the marriage bond.
•To strive to be attractive to one's spouse.
•To assist and support one another, and to resolve disputes amicably.
•The husband has the duty to provide all physical maintenance of the family (housing, clothing, food, medical care, etc.).

[TaylorHicksRocks]

Was your marriage arranged? I know of several Muslim people who lived in the middle east and their marriages were arranged the woman did not have a right to say no..

[WhItErOse]

Originally Posted by TaylorHicksRocks

Was your marriage arranged? I know of several Muslim people who lived in the middle east and their marriages were arranged the woman did not have a right to say no..

oh ...
can you tell me whome ??
of course I choose my husband ...
and every woman must say if she want to married or not .

You do not know anything about marriage in Islam.
It's the best thing in religions.

In Christian marriage and divorce laws is a very difficult and sensitive to the rights of women or men.

[TaylorHicksRocks]

Originally Posted by WhItErOse

oh ...
can you tell me whome ??
of course I choose my husband ...
and every woman must say if she want to married or not .

You do not know anything about marriage in Islam.
It's the best thing in religions.

In Christian marriage and divorce laws is a very difficult and sensitive to the rights of women or men.

As far as divorce goes each case is different..In my parents case I told my mom that I would be the 1st to take the stand and tell the judge just bwhat kind of mom she was...My dad got custody and my mom did not try to get custody..

[WhItErOse]

Divorce in Islam

Many people are surprised to learn that divorce is allowed in Islam. After all, Islam is so strict and rigid in many ways, why would divorce be allowed?

Marriage is Allah's gift to mankind. It offers peace and security, physical pleasure and children. Marriage is meant to nurture the soul. While no one is happy all the time, marriage in general should bring happiness and fulfillment to both parties. Marriage is the center of the family, and also its thermometer. When the marriage is strong, the family flourishes. When it is weak, however, the entire family suffers.


Allah, in His infinite, wisdom, recognized that some people would be ill-suited for one another. Rather than force them to live together in a farce of a marriage, divorce is allowed. However, divorce is not something to be taken lightly; it is to be used as a last resort. In fact, getting a divorce without a valid reason is considered a sin. In a hadith reported by Abu Dawud, Prophet Mohammed (PBUH) said, "Among lawful things, divorce is most hated by Allah."

What are Valid Reasons?
Although the phrase "irreconcilable differences" is overused in our culture, those are the only differences that would necessitate a divorce. If there is hope of reconciliation, you must seek that first. Divorce should not even be considered until all positive avenues have been explored. Only problems that cause such anger, bitterness, and hatred that marriage becomes impossible should lead to divorce.

Obviously, that could vary from person to person and marriage to marriage. Clearly, though, petty differences or boredom are not legitimate grounds. Most marriages do have moments of boredom, where the spark has gone. That is just motivation to spice things up! Running away and destroying a family will not solve that problem.

Infidelity, on the other hand, could definitely be a breaking point for many people, although many couples have managed to survive an affair. Abuse of any kind is certainly cause for divorce, unless the abuser enters a treatment program and fully repents. Refusal of one spouse to fulfill his or her marital duties could be a legitimate cause for divorce. For example, if a husband refuses to work and support the family, the wife would be justified in seeking a divorce if all efforts to change his mind have failed. Likewise, a wife who refuses to share the marital bed could likely find herself divorced, barring medical problems.

In all cases, marital harmony should be attempted. If all efforts have been made to restore happiness and peace, then you may seek divorce.